The Comparison Trap

Hey Guys!

I had doubts writing this post because I didn’t want to sound like a stick record or too cliché. This topic is one that has been spoken about CONSTANTLY. Yet, we still do it. Why is it so easy for us to slip into this behavior of comparing ourselves to others?

I fell into the comparison trap way too often.

The first time I can remember being in too deep was when I had just graduated from college. Unlike others I wasn’t prepared for after university life; as such, I had no job, hardly any money and no focus. Then there was social media where I saw most of the people I graduated with flourishing; who wasn’t moving to a different state/country landed a new classy job, people were settling down, others were working on themselves doing great things and where was I? Stuck up in an apartment trying to figure out my next move.

Focus on Your Own Shit

Comparing yourself to others can lead to depression. Letting you believe that you’re not doing enough, you’re inadequate, not worthy etc etc. This was one of the reasons I had to take a break from social media, because recently I found myself getting caught up again. Have you ever felt like you’re not doing enough? Like there’s something missing from your life? That’s another discussion though. 

The grass is greener where you water it.

If you want some thing, you have to be ready to work for it. I honestly believe you can achieve anything you put your mind to. The only thing stopping you is YOU; by limiting yourself with your beliefs and the lack of time or energy you choose to put into getting things done.

The grass may only look greener on the other side but you don’t know what went into getting it that way. When we see all those lovely posts on social media we don’t know what it took for them to get there. Don’t assume it was easy. No-one shows the “behind the scenes” images only the end result. Put in the work, water and nurture your own grass!

What’s for you will be for you.

It’s a new month, let’s all refocus our 2018 goals and enjoy the upcoming Summer (or Winter) season.

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Honestly, you don’t sound cliche AT ALL. With social media so prevalent, it’s impossible to NOT compare yourself in some degree to other people, but I think your attitude is great to be honest – you gotta water your own grass! xx

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  2. Sharda says:

    Honey, honey! I just talked about this with an interviewee for my podcast. He said to only compare yourself to your past self. I call it your “yester-you” And it has helped me so much. Like, I don’t care how she/he got it. I’m proud for them, but what I got and what I’m working on over here is something for me to be proud of, because I sure didn’t have it yesterday or last month or last year. Great post!

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    1. astoldbyali says:

      So true! Thank you. What is the name/where can I find your podcast?

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